You Might Be a Stupid Christian if…

Posted: June 11, 2009 in Church, Crosspoint

1.  You are thin-skinned.

If we get offended at everything, I think that makes us stupid Christians.  And, wow, we can get offended at just about anything:  Styles of worship, four-letter-words, Christians that drink, Christians that don’t, Gay Pride Day at Disney World, political preferences, and so on.  And it’s worse when it’s personal.  We often take offense at any sort of criticism, constructive or otherwise.  We take offense if someone neglected to invite us to the party.

Here’s the deal when it comes to being easily offended:  People will probably associate you more with what you are against than what you are for.  They will also label you an angry, negative person who’s just too much maintenance to be around.  How do I know this?  In my freshman year in college, I got ticked at everything.  Someone criticized me, I got offended.  My friends went somewhere without me, I got offended.  You know what happened?  By the end of the year, I lost my friends.  Gone.  Out.  After all, who wants to hang out with a psycho who gets pissed and vocals my “offense” every time something didn’t go my way.

Yes, there is a difference between right and wrong.  There is a time to speak up when a confrontation is necessary.  There are standards we can choose to live by.  But these things should not override our patience with and love for people, especially within the body of Christ.  After all, those of us who are easily offended often don’t even know what we do that may be offending to someone else.

Plus, our egos… wait, let me put this another way.  In the body of Christ, it is NOT about me.  It’s about others.  Period.  And other people – being in ANY relationship with other people – is going to risk pain and being wounded.  So, I need to make allowance for each other’s faults, put on my flame-retardant Kevlar underwear, and suck it up already.  There’s too much to be done for it to be about me and what bothers me.

2.  You Are Negative About Everything.

This is related to #1, but I felt it needed to stand alone.  Why?  Because I get very frustrated with people who, on the one hand, proclaim salvation in Jesus Christ, yet, on the other hand, gripe about freakin’ everything.  And yes, I have been that person more than once.  What are we negative about?  Oh, wow…  Money, friends, health, the weather, fitting in, wanting to go “deeper,” changes (to anything), how little time we have, money (yes, I repeated it), what’s on TV, our famlies, our cars, so and so didn’t talk to me Sunday…  Okay, that’s a slippery slope that once I go down it, I might not stop.

If you’re always negative, people don’t know what you’re POSITIVE about.  And as Christians, that’s a major problem both in our walks with God and with our mission to reach people.  If we claim salvation – if we have a relationship with Jesus Christ, if we get to walk with God every day, if we will live an eternal life saved from hell – we should have JOY!  Thought out to be plainly evident in our lives.  A real joy tied to God, not a fleeting joy tied to the things on earth that will inevitably let us down.

But if we’re negative, we don’t demonstrate this joy.  We demonstrate that we don’t enjoy life.  We don’t find hope in our salvation.  And if people see that, who wants to be hanging around it?  This damages the body of Christ, but – even worse – it damages our effectiveness at bringing people into the body of Christ.

So smile, people.  Jesus Christ loves you.

  1. RP says:

    Cool post… I just wanted to back up the good points you made with scripture… First we see it from the very beginning of the bible where offense and negative thinking got mankind in trouble. It even appears that Eve got offended at God because even though she had been created in the image and likeness of God, she was deceived into thinking she would be life Him if she ate…

    Then Adam blamed God for give him Eve, and then Eve blamed the devil and the blame game was on. Then Cain envies his brother’s offering, gets in a fight with him over it and kills him and so on until we see later in his descendants that Lamech became a real redneck boasting of killing a man for wounding him… “Don’t mess with me! I’m bad to the bone.” And sure enough it was “cool” to be violent and short tempered. Then we see it in the children of Israel coming out of Egypt… Complaining about the water, the lack of water, the lack of food, the abundance of food, the lack of meat, the abundance of meat, then they complained about the snakes biting them, the rules, the prophets, the kings… Job even complained about God… until God answered him. Then he repented and he was restored.

    All of these are lessons for us. So we may see ourselves as we are and cry out for God’s mercy and forgiveness. That we may also not judge one another because… Romans 2:1 Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whoever you are who judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things.

    Deut 28:45-48 (NKJV)
    “Moreover all these curses shall come upon you and pursue and overtake you, until you are destroyed, because you did not obey the voice of the LORD your God, to keep His commandments and His statutes which He commanded you. And they shall be upon you for a sign and a wonder, and on your descendants forever.“Because you did not serve the LORD your God with joy and gladness of heart, for the abundance of everything, therefore you shall serve your enemies, whom the LORD will send against you, in hunger, in thirst, in nakedness, and in need of everything; and He will put a yoke of iron on your neck until He has destroyed you.”

    I just want to make a note here about the Hebrew language that this was written in. Always in the Hebrew the verb is in the permissive tense. So it would read better saying, “The Lord will permit a yoke of Iron to be put on your neck…” We know that God is good and there is no darkness in Him. So, all that has to happen is for His protection to be removed and Satan will swoop in and destroy.

    Also… Yes… this is old testament and some would say this does not apply because of Jesus. (Gal 3:13) However… if this is the case and we can just keep on living any way we want, saved… set free and delivered, then none of the curses mentioned in Deut. 28 should be on a saved mans life.

    So, just look in the mirror (the bible) and see for yourself… Does any of the curses fall on your life? How about the blessings?

    But wait… we have a new covenant… Yes, but Jesus did give us a commandment… Love one another as I have loved you. And 1 Corinthians 13 spells it out for us. And if we were not complaining, grumbling about our offenses with others… we would come a long way toward walking in that commandment as well.

    James, which is written to believers, tells us that if we are not doing one part of the law, we are violators of the entire thing. And if violators, we are not doers but judges… and if judges, then we are judged according to our judgment. Therefore if we are judging without mercy, we will be judged without mercy… James 2:8-13 & 4:11&12

    So, Paul tells us in 1 Cor 3:1-3 And I, brethren, could not speak to you as to spiritual people but as to carnal, as to babes in Christ. I fed you with milk and not with solid food; for until now you were not able to receive it, and even now you are still not able; for you are still carnal. For where there are envy, strife, and divisions among you, are you not carnal and behaving like mere men? And he stresses the importance of this in Romans 8:5-8 “For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is not subject to the law of God, nor indeed can be. So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.”

    So finally… I love these two posts. They are right on the money. Also, I wish to add… We all want to prosper. We all want Jesus to reward us and we all want to do good and to increase, not decrease. And this is the will of God for us… It is God who made us to want to prosper to begin with in Genesis 1:26 by blessing us with this blessing, “Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and subdue it…” In this blessing comes our desire to prosper. But the enemy, Satan, has sought to pervert what it means to prosper and to deceive us into thinking the ways of the world are the prosperous ways of life. But we see that Jesus, and the entire bible, teaches us otherwise. God still wishes for you to prosper and to increase, and multiply, and to do well. But He is patiently waiting on you to seek wisdom, knowledge, and understanding from Him. So… please God… Live for Him by living for the things of the Spirit and not the flesh. As Paul says in 1 Cor 13:11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. And in 1 Cor 3:16&17 Do you not know that you are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you? If anyone defiles the temple of God, God will destroy him. For the temple of God is holy, which temple you are.

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